It's funny how times have changed. Life is easier in this era. Don't you think? From traveling by trekking for days to traveling by air. From writing letters and waiting for days, maybe months to have it get to its destination and then get a response, to calling people miles away and getting a response from them in minutes. The world as they say is a global village. Lovely! I dare say with the technological advancements these days, we'll soon be able to share food via email. Hehe.
Okay enough about this, to the point of the day. Remember those days when a groom had to prove that he met his new bride undefiled by displaying a white cloth with blood stains. A little too public for private people like me though. Thank God I wasn't born in that era. *phew*
After a while, this became archaic, don't know if it is still practiced in some places. But I do know this practice at some point was exclusive to royalty. No prince/king is expected to make a 'defiled' lady his wife. She just wasn't fit to be a princess. Interesting, right? Unfair, maybe?
Fast forward years down the line. The age of renaissance. Trust me, I can't explain how things changed or anything. But I'm sure you'll agree with me that things have changed. First, it was a taboo to have sex before marriage, then it became odd for you to be in a relationship and not explore that area. "I mean who does that, you guys are an item now, he/she might get bored with you if you don't give him/her sex". LIES!! Slow and steady exploring sex outside marriage became acceptable, so long as you were loyal to just one sex partner. Hmmm....the odd ones out were no longer only virgins, but also ladies/guys who were sleeping with more than one partner. That was just not right..... Until we developed a little further and the only odd ones out now are virgins. "Girl/guy, you have to explore, have a taste of something different before you get stuck with one person forever". You hear things like "you mean, you plan on ending up with this guy/girl and you haven't done it yet? Jeez, what if you find out you guys are not sexually compatible after marriage? Ahh, you are on you own oo. This is a life time of horrible sex we are talking about here!!" Yada......yada.
And this is how, the pressures of the world has pushed the pride of virginity into extinction. Not like I think ladies/guys that marry as virgins should get awards or anything..... Well..maybe they should. But at least give them some credit. In this time and age, its not easy o.
That said, I'm a proponent of staying a virgin till you get married. Why? Because God says our bodies are His temple. Because I just don't think God will be happy that I'm sharing His temple with different people outside the institution He created for it. Because, I think sex is too deep an act to be done at random. Because, I'm royalty and would like to continue as one. I could go on. But, I'll stop here for now.
So, If you are out there reading this and have had so many sex escapades you lost count. That's okay. God doesn't love you any less. And its never too late to try celibacy. Hold out for that someone special God has prepared for you. You can do it. Trust me. If you are reading this and you are getting weary of holding on for that someone special, the pressures of life are getting to you...you are thinking, "what's the big deal? It's just sex, it'll spice up my life, everybody's doing it anyways!" TA!! Snap out of it, you have come too far from where you started. Don't give in. Not to sound like a broken record, but it's true, whoever sincerely loves you, will be willing to wait for you.
If you are a guy and you are reading this, err.....I don't know what you are thinking. If you are perhaps waiting for the right time as well...I applaud you and charge you to hold on. God is smiling down at you.
If you are reading this and wondering when the right time is, hear this, (or as the case may be, read this) the only right time there ever will be is when you are married. Not when you are 12, 14 or 18, 21....nope. Sex doesn't come with an age tag. So long as you are willing to please God. Wait till you are married. Its part of what He created it for. Ask Him.
And finally, if you are reading this and you are like bleh....bleh.....I'll like to hear from you. Drop a comment please.
After all has been said, let me just drop these scriptures here;
1 Corinthians 6:18-20
Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.
Exodus 22:16-17
“If a man seduces a virgin who is not betrothed and lies with her, he shall give the bride-price for her and make her his wife. If her father utterly refuses to give her to him, he shall pay money equal to the bride-price for virgins.
No matter what happens around you, no matter what I write or you hear and see......let your focus be on God....Let His song be the song you sing and you'll be just fine. Enjoy this beautiful song by 'about a mile' - satisfied.
HAPPY NEW YEAR JESUS ARMY!!!
